Sunday, October 7, 2007

Anorexia in a world without food

Anorexia in a world without food

Anyone who familiar with my last posts will probably look at this and think why is the girl who writes the puff pieces that have me laughing into my earl grey tackling this?

It’s a subject that’s rather close to home actually for me I believe the best way to start this post is to tell you all in RL I am a recovering eating disorder patient I wont go into the full details. Hearing my Sap story isn’t what this is about.

Second style recently published a blog on the shape of avis in SL, the majority of metaverse residents are 6 ft about a size –2 and blonde. Healthy.

http://blog.secondstyle.com/2007/09/no-anorexia-second-life.html

I cant go on other people accounts and I doubt second life had a lot to do with the beginning of my illness but I do think that seeing my avi (we all now she used to need fairly good meal) is highly likely to have no helped. Seeing an entire race of people who its and oddity to be short, or unfounded to be anything over a UK size 10.

I don’t know were we can go from here I do know that all our avis need to start having a more healthy image, id love to think in a few months time we’d have a more open minded grid with someone like swirly cyclone leading a “ Prim Food for all” campaign.

You might call me a hypocrite my avi is still very thin, but you would be amazed at how many people are affected by something like an eating disorder in there lives. I’m thin I’ve always been thin. Even now the validation from typing that gives me a buzz. How ever that hasn’t stopped me from putting myself and my loved ones through hell.

The RL fashion industry is far too big to tackle the issue in second life we have created the fashion industry its not to late to change peoples outlooks. We need and industry that’s about clothes and how when you put on a certain outfit you become who you want to be, not about looking ill, And I honestly don’t know who’s brave enough to make the first move towards it.

Marni

xx

25 comments:

Eyva Matova said...

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Tenshi said...

Marni, I <3 you. I hate these stick-thin people I see in SL... I mean, I know that in SL, you can be anything you want to be, blah blah... but honestly, why? Why be a stick-thin avatar?

There are people in this world that are naturally that thin and can't avoid it, but the majority of us have a few curves here and there.

Liberty Young said...

Hi Marni,

In SL I have an attachment called "Halo of Apeearance" made by someone called Rez Writer. This thing gives me my height and weight. It tells me I am 179cm and 66kg. Now that's a BMI of 20.6 well in the normal zone of 18.5-24.9.

Perhaps SL designers could be encouraged to sell this halo thing or have a touch poster that gives the same info. It might just help people realise how out of proportion their avi is.

Interestingly when my RL partner sees my SL avi he always thinks it is too thin and over the past few months I have upped the sliders a bit. The more shapely I get in SL the more SL male attention I've got too even though I'm not looking for it. The blokes really don't like the super skinny girls.

Anonymous said...

I have food disorder too in rl and I agree, sl tendency to anorexia shapes should change.
My avie has curves and while most of men apreciate it, I have often been teased by thin girls for my round butt. It may sound sick but sometimes I even cried for it and this didnt' certainly help my recovery in rl.
Elena

Anonymous said...

I have avatars of all shapes and sizes (serial alter here) and it's unbelievable how differently people treat you. When I'm on my thin, blonde, super-fashionable avatar guys fall all over me. When I'm on my curvy, darker-skinner, super-fashionable avatar I get disparaging remarks about the size of my butt and waist and suddenly people think it's okay to be nasty to me out of the blue... I love my curvy avatar and would never want to give her up, but it seems people in SL are just as shallow as they are in RL. In a world where you can be everything you want to be, most people choose to conform, and that's really sad.

Unknown said...

Marni, I am speechless... *hugs*

My avatar has curves because in RL I have curves. Girls have curves, hips, butt...
The only big difference is my RL height but my avie is getting shorter.

Aemilia Villota said...

I think there are plenty of people on the SL fashion scene who are curvy... much more so than you would see on the RL fashion scene.
Swirly Cyclone and Dakota Buck are two that spring to mind, there are lots of curvy pioneers and that's cool.

I think we should be able to look however we want, thin can be beautiful, and doesn't have to be unhealthy, and it's unfair to bitch about the skinnies as much as it is about the fatties.

We all react to body images differently, and I think it's something we all need to deal with on a personal level, rather than suggesting everyone else should change.

Fat, thin, tall or short, you can be anything you want in SL and that's how it should stay.
I don't give two monkeys what anyone thinks of my big ole ass in SL, I love my avi's fat butt and it's here to stay, likewise I don't give a shit about the rake thin skinnies, if they're happy then let 'em be :)

Marni Grut said...

Aemila : i dont think you can look at things on such a athetic piont of view, why do people look at thin people and think "wow there more attactive" This is a socail issue in RL and SL that steam alot deeper than feeding people a few pies

Anonymous said...

Hi Marni,

I'm a plus-size avie. In RL, I am a plus-size recovering bulimic.

I hold no grudges against the average shape and size in SL, I think everyone should be able to look how they want to look. I feel bad when avies give in to supposed virtual pressure to look a certain way, and I'm determined not to do that.

But I think if anyone wants to have a thin beautiful avie, they should be able to.

I understand why you'd want to have a thin avie, esp. if you are thin IRL. I get a lot of comments - some negative, some positive - about me being a larger-than-average avie in SL. Just the other day a man built like an overly tanned Ken doll with a "perfect physique" and perfect hair and perfect everything asked me why I would want to be fat in SL.

I just wish people would stop trying to judge the people behind the avie based on what the avie looks like - whether we're models, dancers, furries, nekos, elves, faeries, tinies, or heavy, it's still about the person behind.

I'd be proud to know you in-world or out.

Marni Grut said...

awww rosie thats a loverly thing to say!

*hugs* good luck with your recovery

Marni

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alex45 said...

As far back as I can remember, my self-esteem was low and I lacked confidence. Children can be cruel, and although they weren't the "cause" of my eating problems, the bullying I endured throughout my schooldays only added to my feelings of self-hatred

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